Stable State - Alone?

This rather geeky Economics professor of mine was spouting random thoughts one class. Talking to us about economic thought, he was analysing relationships, people and social interactions. So, in typical Economics fashion, he built a model: He assumed our stable state in life is being alone - we enter and exit relationships but essentially, we're always alone. He then began examining the nature of relationships, how long they last and the amplitude and frequency of oscillations (I warned you, geeky. Also, quite possibly one of his friends just suffered a break up of sorts.)

His economic thought didn't make me think as much as his assumption. Which, after I gave a bit of my own economic thought to, I decided to disagree with. Our stable state is certainly not us being alone. In fact, through most of a human life, we rarely are alone. We're born onto this planet connected to our mothers, we're taken care of by family (and society), and most of us learn to take care of ourselves, to take care of our own someday. The stability of our state, in many ways, is determined by the number and strength of the bonds we keep to those closest to us.

I only harp on this because off late, I've been wondering whether or not the most crucial aspect of life is being independent. And learning to being comfortable in solitude. And in some ways, it is. But only in a trivial sense, it shouldn't really be practiced a lot. It's important to be independent so that if a strong relationship fades away, you are strong enough to reinvest in another (knowing who you are). I don't think one can ever be truly satisfied or happy being alone.

Poker analogy (I apologise): It's like being properly rolled for the game you're playing in. If you lose your stack, you shouldn't bat an eyelid when you rebuy. And your bankroll shouldn't really inhibit you from stacking off in stacking off spots (game - relationship. bankroll - independence or knowing yourself. You get the point).

And the fear of being alone is pretty high up in the list of things people fear the most. It's right next to spiders, snakes and the unknown. And with fear, comes insecurity. And with insecurity, I've found, comes drama. And barring Gaga, nobody likes drama. (Did I just make a Gaga reference? A part of me just died)

And those who are genuinely comfortable being alone are such a small proportion of human kind that they're like Argon- they don't really count.

I think life would be easier if everyone just accepted this. Figured out who they are. Figured out who they want their relationships to be with. Don't really care if they don't fit in with everyone. Because they do fit.

And when things don't work out, blame it on variance, keep calm and rebuy.